Something spooky happened to me a few weekends ago. And I swear to you every word is true!
I have a vision board over my desk and for the past couple of years, I have had the photo below on it.
Even though I have my own office in my house, I have always yearned for a separate space outside of the house but also a space that I can sit and relax outside.
Every day I look at this picture and imagine myself having this built. I have also wandered around our garden many a time and thought where could it go, how much will it cost etc. But there has never seemed to be the right place to put it and I thought it would be cost prohibitive.
And then the strange but true thing happened.
My lovely gardener came over and we decided to tackle an area of the garden that was wholly inaccessible due to a HUGE amount of ivy, old grape vine, and many other things growing. We had a little shed that was in danger of collapse from the amount of growth over it.
And when the debris was cleared, we found this!
Yes, I swear, I had no idea that we had this amount of space completely hidden. And just compare this photo to the one of my vision board.
It’s the identical footprint!!!!!
Both my gardener and I were completely flabbergasted when I ran indoors and grabbed my photo to show him.
Yes, it needs work, but nowhere near as much as I first thought. The outline is there. And even more spooky, the plant is in exactly the same place as my vision board picture.
Some things are just meant to be and maybe if we really believe we can have something, it comes to us in the most mysterious ways.
And here’s another thing
Oh, and talking about spooky, no one else sees my vision board. Below is another picture of an item I have on my vision board.
Now, my husband is usually completely and utterly useless at choosing presents for me. In the past, I have received an iron and a microwave for birthdays and just last year had a mop for Christmas as he says he never knows what to buy.
But this year was different. It was my 50th birthday and this is what he bought me.
The photo really doesn’t do the watch justice but apart from the colour of the face, it is practically identical to what I had on my vision board, even down to the number of diamonds around the face and between the numbers!
If you don’t have a vision board yet, go create one. Even if you don’t believe and you do this for fun you will enjoy it, but you may just be seriously surprised at what happens over time. It really can be amazing what can happen when we really focus on something.
P.S. Have you ever had anything like this happen to you? Did you have something on your vision board that suddenly materialised? Let me know in the comments below
Recently, I posted a challenge in my Facebook group and in my newsletter to find a hero.
The post went:
Who do you admire? Who would you love to be like? Go print off a picture of them and pin by your desk. When you are feeling out of sorts and de-motivated, take a look at their picture and ask yourself what they would do. Put yourself in their shoes and model yourself on their behaviour. They wouldn’t have got to where they did by not putting in the effort so think about the action they would take in your position and go do it. This simple trick can really help you keep motivated when working from home.
And inevitably, after posting this, I was asked who my hero was and I am going to share that with you now.
Love her or loathe her, my hero is Victoria Beckham. I admire her for her complete determination to build a brand around herself and for winning awards for her work despite the immense criticism she is constantly under. No, she can’t sing, but that didn’t stop her finding something she was really good at with her clothes and perfume range.
I also believe she is the driving force behind her husband’s career and he wouldn’t have gone as far as he did without her. I have huge respect for her in the way she handled the news about her husband’s alleged affair. She conducted herself with dignity and held her head high even though she must have been torn apart inside. Her family means everything to her and she does everything she can to protect them.
Finally, I love her sense of humour. Yes, she looks serious all the time in photos and is criticised for this, but this is part of her branding and her career. The critics just don’t realise this. However, in interviews and on other occasions, she is regularly seen letting herself go and having fun at her own expense.
Here’s a pic of her on my vision board.
I know that when I am feeling sluggish and feel like just moping around in my lounge pants with no makeup, if I take a look at her picture, I instantly get a boost as I know for Victoria to be successful, she didn’t have such slovenly standards. I soon get in the right frame of mind again.
This is such a simple trick that really does work. So, tell me who is your hero? Who inspires you? Leave a comment below and let me know.
Do you ever get asked this? I do constantly. By people who have been given an inch in the past and then want to come back and take a mile.
These, without fail, are people who I have helped for free in the past and then think they can take advantage of this generosity.
I really do find it incredible how often people who already a decent income, and would never dream of giving anything themselves, will ask for time and information that will make or save them a significant amount of money, but they aren’t prepared to pay for the answer.
Among messages I have received are:
Can I pick your brains?
Just a quick question to run by you…
Let’s meet up for a coffee. I have something I would love to chat with you about.
How about lunch so I can have a chat about my business? My shout for a sandwich and a coffee.
Hmm, now let me think about these for a moment …
How about NO!!!
A sandwich and a coffee aren’t going to pay my bills. The time I spend on lunch would also be wasted time that could be better spent looking after my paying clients.
But for some people, they honestly believe that I should give them my valued time and attention for nothing. They think they should pay absolutely zero for:
The wisdom I have found from the hundreds of books I have read
The lessons I have learnt from the thousands of hours I have studied
The expertise I have built up whilst gaining my qualifications and accreditations
The knowledge I have gained from the mentors and coaches I have worked under
The practical experience I have from working with hundreds of small businesses over the years
The insights to the mistakes I have made whilst building my own businesses and how to avoid them
The solutions I have found from the thousands I have spent in learning and practical applications
The know-how and learning I continue to build daily from running my own successful business
They don’t want to put the time and effort in to learn all this themselves. They want me to give it to them for free.
And I bet you get asked this too. Too often we want to help everyone and start to feel guilty for saying no to free requests. Go write down all the things that you have learned that are of value to others like I have done above. And when someone asks you for free advice for the umpteenth time, go back to this list and realise how much your knowledge is worth. I’m not saying don’t give away free info when building relationships but I am saying turn away those that your gut is telling you are taking you for a ride.
When I get these type of requests now, I tend to reply with:
“Thanks for reaching out to me but my diary is so packed at the moment that I can only take calls and meet with paying clients. Thanks for understanding. And of course, if you would like to see me as a paid client you can book at …”
And do you know what happens next? 9 times out of ten I never hear from them again. Surprise surprise!
Not my ideal client in the slightest.
If you get asked this and aren’t sure how to reply, try my message above. Be fair both to yourself and to those that value you enough to pay for your services. You are worth it.
This month in my business club, I am working with the ladies on getting into the right mindset for business. But why is this so important.
Well, it’s as simple as this. You can have the best product or service out there, you can know everything there is to know about how to market it to your ideal client, but if you don’t have the right mindset, you just won’t have the confidence to go out there and go after those paying clients.
You may well dabble a little here and there but you will get sporadic results. You will stumble when asked for a discount and may well end up giving one! You may start to lose motivation when you get rejected by someone and you find out they buy elsewhere.
Getting in the right mindset is critical and the very first thing you need to before anything else when building a business in my opinion. Forget reading up and watching more webinars on how to grow sales through Facebook until you truly believe in yourself and your product and are prepared to stand up and shout it out from the rooftops how fabulous you are.
And once you have that cracked, as fired up and enthused as you may be about creating your own business, it will take hard work, commitment and personal investment on your own part along with self-responsibility for making things happen.
There is no point sitting and dreaming about what you are going to do. You have to get off your backside and do it!
Putting it quite simply …
Action takers win
The following tip is from one of the wonderful ladies in my business group. We were talking about how it’s ok doing all your planning and getting motivated, but at some point you are simply going to have to take action.
Karen Thomas from Red Oak Coaching showed us an example of what she uses in her workshops. She held a tealight in her hand and asked everyone to close their eyes and really focus on blowing out the candle. The reality of course was that when everyone opened their eyes, the candle was still lit.
It was only when someone took action and used their breath that the candle was able to be blown out. It’s all very well having plans and dreams but basically until you get off your arse and take some action, nothing is going to materialise.
Harsh but fair.
And Karen has allowed me to share her video with you to watch.
What are you going to take action on today? Leave a comment below and let me know.